The Sjogren’s Club – Lifetime Member

Anyone who has ever had a basic psychology class will be familiar with Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. In specific, Maslow references the human need for each of us to feel loved and to belong. When I was in my teen years, my need to belong was driven by a shallow sense of what I thought was important. Things like brand name clothes, being one of the “popular” girls, making the cheerleading squad or joining the most popular clubs at school.

And once you were “in”, you could not help but gain a sense of confidence that you were among kindred spirits, no matter what your motivation was for being there. Memories were created, character was built and bonds were made between friends. The reality was what was true back then about belonging to a group with common interests, is still true today.

As I scanned the daily topics on The Sjogren’s World Forum (my online club), I was struck by the various degrees of needed support. There are members who are: grieving the recent loss of two members; those who are in fear that they may have lymphoma; more than a few folks who are battling insurance and medical bills; some who have little or no support from family, friends or co-workers; and most, if not all of us, who just want a solid diagnosis (es) and treatment plans that work, and on and on.

Ironically, this “Sjogren’s Club” is not a club that any of us wanted to join. It is a group that was born of necessity. A collection of people searching for answers and support. And just like the kid who sat alone at a lunch table or didn’t get picked for a team in gym class, it can be very lonely for people living their life with Sjogren’s Syndrome and chronic illness.

I did not choose to be a part of the Sjogren’s Club…it chose me. Living with the complexity of an obscure and ‘difficult to diagnose’ illness is not easy on many levels. Our human need to be loved, supported and belong still drives us, no matter what our situation is. If there is a silver lining in any of this, it is that for those of us who reach out to others who are living the same Sjogren’s journey, we can find the support and belongingness that helps to navigate our rocky paths together.

So..welcome to the club. While the membership fees are costly, the support benefits help to defray the costs.


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Sandy Burkett is the Creative Engineer, President and Owner of Vital Signs. Vital Signs is a certified Native American/Woman-Owned custom sign and graphics company located in Carnegie, PA.
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4 Responses to The Sjogren’s Club – Lifetime Member

  1. Heidi says:

    AWESOME way to portray the way this feels. Once I got sick I was immediately drawn to the different blogs and Facebook connections desperately needing to connect with others and finding much comfort in seeing everyone’s persistence in ‘living’ and maintaining the new normal in spite of Sjogrens. Thanks so much for being a part of that network that helps so many!!

  2. Lynn Akers says:

    So glad to see and read comments about Sjogrens. I dont know why but it seems to validate all of the things that I feel and experience. I would like to say I feel like I have a great doctor. He wasted no time diagnosing me and treating me. Recently I saw a dermatologist that has helped me with my extremely dry skin, plus some issues with my scalp,ears and eyebrows. So far so good. Please continue to discuss this debilitating disease.

    • vitalsignspgh says:

      I agree with you. With this crazy illness, it is easy to second-guess yourself & wonder if you are crazy. Talking to others help to validate that you are not and others are sharing the same experience.

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